Often parents complain, that their child will close, does not share the problems and experiences. And they hardly find common language. Frequently it is connected by that parents give not enough time to the child. Owing to employment or for other reasons, but result always one – the child is discharged and it will be difficult to return its arrangement.
 From the early childhood you should make all efforts to become the child the friend. And always to remember that you are more senior, is more skilled and never to estimate acts of children from the point of view of the adult. At children other motives, frequently to us not the clear. And consequently your debt to do the first steps to it on a meeting and to try to find the approach to the child. Because as you explain to it «that such well, and that such it is bad», your future dialogue depends, after all you form outlook of the child. And if you well and softly manage to transfer it the knowledge and attitude, becoming the adult, your son or the daughter, will divide your point of view on many questions. And, hence, you remain friends.
While the child small, support it in all its undertakings. There is nothing badly that he wishes to climb in a dirt. And when you start to shout «That you do, at you pure trousers?!», the child does not understand you. He yet has not realised, that such a dirt and that such «pure trousers», he should understand itself, that mum means. For this purpose it should soil trousers, and tinker in a dirt. Believe, that through small time, the child will understand, that in a dirt to play unpleasantly and wet trousers stir to him. That the child the person and should learn itself the world, and you always remember to it in it only the assistant.
Do not abuse the child that it does not give the toys to other children. You do not give the things – the car, dresses, the TV, - to other people. For you it is value, and you understand why it do not wish to give. For the child a toy the same value, he values to it and loves it. And another's child, to it not the friend because to certain age parents can be the friend to the child only. You will develop at the child not greed, and the sensitive relation to the property of others. After all it already appreciates the things. Recollect, that since the early childhood to the child words "yours rs" are clear. And it is very important, that the child appreciated both the toys, and strangers, did not aspire to take away from others, did not break.
Being engaged in development of the child do not forget, that it is necessary for it not only intellectual development, but also entertainments. Visiting of museums – is important, but it is not always interesting to the child, kids are involved more with cheerful games. If you do not love a roundabout, and the child wishes to go, you should meet its desire. Do not invent justifications is it is uninteresting, dangerously, and simply go. At least on one attraction will sweep together. The child will estimate it.
Encourage love to animals. Care of animals develops kindness and responsibility. If you for any objective reasons (allergy) cannot get a dog, or a cat, try to explain to the child why you refuse to it. Also find alternative – хомячок, попугайчик, small fishes.
In advanced age, the child has other interests. It is not necessary to discuss and condemn telephone conversations with friends even if they to you seem silly and empty.
Learn to listen to the child. And the main thing share with it the problems, consult on it. And when there will be "trouble", it will come to you, instead of will address to friends.
And the main thing, bring up the child in love, love, instead of punishments, compulsions and pressure.
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