At once after sorts many women start to feel so strong euphoria that, apparently, are ready to love all this world. However such mood proceeds at them not for long. On change absolutely other sensations come: that condition of alarm and inexplicable irritability, aggression and causeless tearfulness is unexpectedly rolled. It would Seem, from a condition of motherhood the woman should receive exclusively positive emotions, but far from it ….
 The anxiety, depression, weariness, irritability, panic attacks, feeling of unreality of an event, bad dream, loss of appetite and либидо, feebleness in house affairs, loss of love to the child — all is signs enough widespread postnatal depression. And its consequence is that the woman ceases to test pleasure from own motherhood, ceases to watch the appearance, avoids dialogue and even can conceive a liking for medical products or alcohol.
It differs three types of postnatal crises:
 The postnatal melancholy appearing within first several days after sorts when it would be desirable to cry, appears feeling of depression, vulnerability, fear, uncertainty in;
Easy degree of depression which is accompanied by attacks of feebleness, loneliness, fear and proceeds from several days about one week;
Chronic depression: attacks of alarm, fear when usual affairs seem absolutely intolerable. Such depression develops within first three months after sorts and can remain throughout the whole year, and sometimes even three-four years.
By the way, the modern medicine considers today depression as natural reaction of an organism to childbirth and motherhood. Therefore young mum should be in advance morally ready to that after a birth of the child of its feeling can become a little unstable and promptly vary in the different party: for pleasure to despair and on the contrary. About it it is necessary to warn and native that those did not perceive a similar condition exclusively as whims of the spoilt young woman and have helped the woman as it is possible is easier and to go through faster this period.
So, you are in a stressful condition. What to do?
Remember that approach of motherhood will demand from you revision of all vital way therefore you should adapt to much simply. And if earlier you, for example, could not imagine day without a morning paper and regular viewing of television programs with occurrence in your house of the kid about all it it is necessary to forget: at you it will not be simple on it of time. And not to feel torn off from all world, listen to radio (you can make it, performing any work on the house), and you will be always informed enough on the most significant events occurring in the politician, culture, music.
Try to define priorities and do not try to contain the house in a former condition, on maintenance of faultless cleanliness you simply will not have forces. Encourage itself that established in yours, is no time such tidy, the house chaos – the phenomenon time.
Do not forget about that to you is necessary to find time to stay alone with itself, to wander on shops, to glance to the girl-friend or to descend in a beauty shop, to find balance and communication with world around. Therefore do not hesitate to ask occasionally at least the relatives to sit with your child and do not take in calculation that people will think of you.
It is not less important for you after sorts and rest. Try to establish certain hours for rest, it is desirable, if the day dream is it. In the event that you do not wish to sleep, simply relax, close eyes and with anybody do not communicate at this time. Drink a cup mint or ромашкового tea. These grasses possess calming properties. Also limit consumption of caffeine which raises nervousness.
While the child sleeps, esteem the good book. Reading is one of the best ways to avoid stress. Hire the cartridge with a comedy. The laughter perfectly removes stress.
Disconnect phone and take a hot bath with aromatic oils. Include pleasant music and ask to make the husband to you the massage, necessary to remove muscular stress and to raise mood. And to strengthen a relaxation add in oil for massage some drops of aromatic oil. Calming properties possess ilang-ilang, сандаловое, lemon, orange, лавандовое and ромашковое oils. By the way, quite often similar session of massage can turn to a fine intimate love scene.
Find time to be engaged in gymnastics. It is already proved, that if in depression to be engaged in gymnastics the emotional condition improves much faster. And regular employment by gymnastics reduce pressure, weariness, aggression and depression, put to heart and cheer up. Besides exercises distract from daily cares. Carrying out them, you at least for a while can forget about the problems.
Quite often as the reason for depression the feeling can serve, that you have turned to the housewife. In this case, employ the nurse or give the child to a day nursery-gardens, and immediately come to work. And the most important thing — do not hesitate to consult at the psychologist, nobody will count you abnormal. Remember that if you will not understand that disturbs you now subsequently it will make much more difficultly.
Svetlana ШУКЛИНА,
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