Of what people when dream of future children think? The light cosy room, through openwork curtains flows a sunlight, lacy diapers, caps and baby's undershirts, easy bed curtains and shaking toys over a wooden bed in which it is sweet sleeps also to something the small angel smiles.
 And here all has come true. You cross a threshold of the house with the kid on hands. The friends invited occasionally and relatives be touched and start up tear. You are simply happy – here it, our child, a small miracle! Remember this feeling properly, strong-strong – for all life because will pass not so a lot of time, and you will open for yourselves, that lacy diapers can be wet and закаканными, the easy bed curtains over a bed quickly collect a dust, and the small angel cries out on ten times on day and does not allow to sleep at night.
Feeding mum should choose between washing of ware and a dream, between a dream and talents in cookery, between the TV, the book, a call to the girlfriend, shaping and a dream. And between a dream and ardent passion in bed. And then to cease to choose and simply to fall asleep while the kid sleeps. What? Ah, yes! For a while to forget about the figure and there is only a milk, a white loaf, porridges, a boiled potato and macaroni. Such diet, according to pediatrists, will not cause in the child of an allergy and коликов.
And at this time the feeding daddy should break in a flat cake on work – because it too has not slept and consequently that on pampers half of budget of a young family leaves. When it will come home – tired, hungry and malicious – that he cannot reproach the wife that the brothel and is not present a supper. Better most to be cleaned and prepare. And it is obligatory to talk to the kid (it grows, all understands and misses on the daddy!) and also to rock to sleep, bath … Or on the contrary? Well, and at will, to choose between a dream and ardent passion in bed.
But really it also is that life about which your dreams of a small angel and family happiness will break? You will not believe, but that occurs to you and your life after a birth of the kid, can become much finer than all those joyful prospects which you once drew to yourselves. You simply look at it in another way. And what, if to you the child, and the small teacher a zen which here to open to you a happiness secret has come not simply?
Small children are very sensitive, emotional and vulnerable. Recent researches in micropsychiatry have shown, that the 6-month's kid can already run into depression if people close to him quarrel among themselves. And though children sleep much, they see, hear and sensitively react that occurs around. Certainly, it is necessary adults hardly. But if you are not quiet and happy, the child will suffer too. And unless you want, that your precious angel suffered? Here to you and a problem number one: in impossible, inconceivable and improbable conditions to become happy parents and an amicable family.
If to think, it not so is difficult. You already are able to do it! Also do hundreds times a day, that not noticing. For example, change footwear if it presses and rubs feet. You clean about book armchairs, knitting spokes, a hairbrush, the shaving machine tool and still a heap of any things, it is not known whom накиданных there, and sit down more conveniently in front of the TV. You pour out позавчерашнюю tea leaves and sour soup and prepare fresh because it is more tasty and it is more pleasant. And when wash windows, keep for a wall not to fall. You are constantly (!) insured, arranged more conveniently and search for the best. So why in relations with the most expensive people you, happens, "are restricted", sit, as on needles and it is good, if do not feel, as if fly downwards with it is unique inevitable prospect ahead – to break …
But here the small teacher a zen comes and all existence speaks to you: «Dear mum and the daddy! You have a freedom in choosing – or to be a happy family, either not to be. Or to carry close footwear, forcing down feet in blood, and then to cease to go in general – because painfully, or to work and find rather convenient boots. But only remember, if you all the same decide to remain in close – I will suffer too. Both now, and then, when I will grow».
And here you are knocked down, arranging the life with a new member of a family where it the centre and all cares spin round it. You think of, how it is better to arrange a bed, that there were no draughts where to clean sharp and small subjects, when to invite friends and whether to invite them in general, how long to walk and where to find ecologically pure carrot for the first feeding up. And at this time the small teacher a zen puts a problem number two: «Do the main thing, remember about minor and get rid of the unnecessary!»
What now "main thing"? The kid and love in the house. "Minor" – probably, inveterate conflicts to the relatives, a blurring figure of young mum, a problem on work at the young daddy, нечищеные boots, the dirty plate, fading flowers on window sills and the summer residence which has grown with a tall weeds. Certainly, the major components of your life all it too. But you only present, that the angel has suddenly ceased агукать and to smile, but only loudly complains in a bed while you direct houses марафет or argue on meanness of your fellow workers. Surprisingly, but the fact: if to think of "main thing" and to do "main" also "minor" dares much easier and more pleasantly, than it was possible for itself to present. Simply mysticism!
As to "unnecessary" – it is very easy for defining. It is all that can do much harm to "main thing". Think, and it is valid, what for to you to smoke? Or to lean on alcohol? Or (упаси My God!) to try drugs? Whether it is necessary to waste time on a serial or a computer game when it is possible to sleep, take a walk or simply to communicate with each other? What for to exhaust itself mental fights with "ill-wishers"? And, at last, why you hold till now the whole heap of clothes which do not put on the eighth year in a case?
The child as if learns you correctly to place priorities, not spending force and means for the empty. The small teacher a zen comes to you and if you work in the soul a little, very soon you can quote Нео from a film "Matrix": «Now I know кунфу!»
Here to you only two lessons. Will suffice to begin with? But it is still far not all. The kid grows. Will observe it attentively, and he will learn you to see. To see, that there is an inexhaustible interest to the world, a universal pardon of insults, persistence on purpose achievement, absolute absence of laziness … And whether it is not enough of that else!
And if now all it is not familiar to you yet – you only wait for the kid and dream of lacy diapers, or are afraid and yet have not solved, whether to leave it, think that, maybe, not casually all has developed so. Your time has Perhaps, come to touch a miracle and to learn secrets of a universe, to be overcome with all possible and impossible difficulties – for itself, free and happy. Though is not present. Not only for itself. But also for the small teacher a zen cosy sleeping in a stomach at mum
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