Certainly, each parent believes, that its child "most-most". The cleverest, the sharpest, the most artistic. Yes that there a sin to conceal? Simply ingenious. In it especially it would be desirable to trust because we live in a century of a competition when it is considered that the one who knows more wins and is able more. Actually, psychologists assure, the key to the future success of the child lays at all in good study and versatile knowledge. In what? In realistic expectations of his parents!  «Драмкружок, a circle on a photo, and me also to sing hunting»
My neigbour in a ladder platform, mother of the charming 5-year-old babe, is assured, that her daughter already "is too developed" for a kindergarten, and was going to send to in September its school. Month of arrangements of various children's psychologists that the neigbour, at last, has understood Was required: her daughter is really developed – just for the and for the age.
Other my acquaintance carries every day the son in section in carat on other end of Moscow. The road occupies in total 3 hours. Result of it really infernal work – a collection of sports trophies and the 12-year-old boy who absolutely does not have friends and which never (!) walks in a court yard with other boys. It is asked, really these parents think first of all of happiness of the child? Or about something the friend?
These examples are not individual, as can seem. It became simply fashionable to have comprehensively developed child-child prodigy. Thus only the few reflect, what price gets to the child such "genius". Whether So terribly to have the "usual" child? Especially if this child of oars, is healthy, happy, at it it is a lot of friends. Let even he not too well studies, is not able to dance тустеп, and it is difficult to guess, what exactly it has drawn in the drawing.
According to experts, only about 5 % of children are rather presented – and, as a rule, only in any one area. The others – usual children, more or less developed, but from it not less remarkable. Unfortunately, many parents do not wish to have simply "usual" child. And here we rush with the child from one section in another and we transform the child into walking "resume" - acknowledgement of our own solvency. The success of the child testifies to success of parents. And the child starts to think, that anything from this, that it does, does not satisfy completely his parents. So there are neurosises and complexes.
Parents too are under considerable pressure: daily from screens of the TV and pages of magazines it repeat, that it is necessary to do to develop intelligence, memory, speech of the child to grow up the genius etc., etc. to Parents there is no time to go simply with the child on walk, to admire the autumn nature and to feed pigeons. What for, when for this time the child can learn 50 new English words?
As «to release reins»:
1. Understand, that "commonness" is a norm. It is not necessary to feel the fault that all friends to your child visit art school, and it is not present. If your child has an art talent, it will prove sooner or later and then the sense will lead conversation on art school.
2. There is a set of kinds of endowments. And talents of the child will not necessarily be shown at school or section. Your child can have abilities and love to gardening, design, the reference with animals, to leadership among contemporaries, etc. It too useful abilities and skills, but it is not obligatory to them to devote all free time of the child.
3. Think in the long term. Whether really your child needs in a life to what it oblige to study? Not to all allowed to become world famous musicians or artists. If the talent is, it will necessarily be shown. And it is far not at all known people talent it was showed in the early childhood. Einstein, for example, went to school worse than ever.
4. Do not begin too early. I am absolutely assured, that the three-year kid does not need to know English language. Yes, it can learn some words, but will not suspect it, as though early you have begun – the language environment is for this purpose necessary. You детсадовец likes to play a ball? Well and let to itself plays, for this purpose it is not necessary to write down it in football section at all. Children should remain children, as though parents would like to have houses of the world champion on football.
5. Give to the child the right to solve most. Let the child himself or by means of your helps and councils will choose, than it is more interesting to it to be engaged at leisure. Only let this time will be valid free, instead of at the expense of dialogue with friends, the walks, favourite games.
But, maybe, your child – the genius?
Here some early signs which can testify to special endowments of the preschool child:
So, there is a probability, that your child can be the genius, if it:
- Quickly studies and easily remembers the new information;
- It seems to more mature for the age;
- Has the big lexicon or already independently reads;
- Does not recognise authorities;
- Experiments at the decision of any problem;
- Prefers friends more advanced age;
- It is extraordinary sensitive;
- Shows intellectual curiosity;
- Shows compassion to people and animals;
- Loves puzzles and digital riddles;
- To it quickly наскучивает monotonous activity.
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