For certain you know, that 2007 in Russia is declared by year of the child. By data statisticans in our country death rate exceeds birth rate what somehow to change our demographic situation to the best the government starts programs stimulating birth rate increase, for example, give out patrimonial certificates at a birth of the second child.
 But business not in the government and money and the matter is that presently there was a community of people which do not want children - childfree - voluntary childless. This movement types the increasing turns in the West, and, judging by a demographic situation, it has every chance to find adherents and in Russia, on the Russian-speaking Internet some hundreds persons which divide this principle, has united in community ru_childfree.
To чайлдфри people whom those who postpone a birth of the child "on then" cannot have children because of serious problems with health, or those who up to the end were not defined with opinion on this question do not concern. Present чайлдфри is a person who can get the child, but meaningly chooses not to do it.
The ideology чайлдфри does not assume any hatred to children, only full indifference. And consequently — unwillingness to be engaged in in relation to what you do not test any enthusiasm. All the same to recognise difficult not, that it is much more reasonable, than to get the child because "so it is necessary at my age".
Чайлдфри refer to set of the various reasons, in particular:
Comfort and development possibility:
The desire to have is more than free time for leisure, a hobby, friends, work in combination
Desire to reduce financial responsibility
Fear of that родительство, being irreversible step, is not pleasant to them
Ability to change work and a residence for short term (spontaneity)
Desire to keep level of emotional and physical affinity with the partner, incompatible with occurrence of the child
Unwillingness to reconstruct the house according to requirements of the child and norms of safety
Comprehension of that will damage a birth of the child to career growth
Intention to support certain level of the control over a life; undesirability of loss of time, forces, a privacy and freedom
Absence of requirement for children:
Absence of biological bent for родительству
Youthful, or the contempt which has remained since a youth for small children
The general hostility to children's behaviour
Prompting to care of parents, other relatives to be engaged in charity
Satisfaction dialogue with children as the aunt, the uncle, the teacher etc.
Fear and disgust for physical conditions of pregnancy, experience of sorts and the postnatal period (for example, because of loss of external appeal)
Memoirs on the injuring or poor childhood
Memoirs on offending or absent parents
Safety of the parent and the child:
Medical preconditions for difficult pregnancy (for example, a diabetes, oncological group of risk), or births of the patient (for example, depression in several generations)
Obsessivno-kompulsivnoe frustration, infringements in sphere of attachments
Absence or inaccessibility of qualitative child care centres
The belief what to bring people in this world immorally:
It is impossible to ask their consent
The world is full of suffering, and it is impossible to guarantee, that the given person will live a good life
«The world is not ready to accept my child, I wish to prepare at first it» (the statement of the 29-year-old girl-chajldfri)
Each born should die
Overpopulation, environmental problems
Inability to be the responsible and patient parent
Before to give birth to new children, it is necessary to make happy already existing
There are some reasons of occurrence чайлдфри.
The first - universal: overpopulation which подспудно presses on all. The second - general инфантилизация. It is shown in orientation to an eternal youth, in a fashion on bright youth clothes, in a cult of entertainments.
It is all not propagation and not advertising as consider some, it is a flesh and blood of the modern person. At women infantility is expressed in поглощенности by work and free sexual behaviour, and the birth of the child crosses out all. Thus the conflict remains: on the one hand, biological requirement to give birth, with another - the desire which has eaten in a subcortex to live in a foot in due course.
It is interesting, that чайлдфри basically there are at whom biological instincts are strong, those who very much wishes to have children, but is afraid of this step. They find calm in demonstrative, public negation of own motives.
Having heard about чайлдфри, many are irritated and say, that the mankind will die out, if birth rate falls. It not the fact. Probably, the society will develop by a beehive principle: there will be a division of duties. There will be a caste giving birth — those who will decide to give birth and get thus social support, and those who will prefer not to have children, — some kind of a caste childless. Such people will be engaged in career and will not feel the inferiority. In any case better fairly to declare unwillingness to have children, than to give birth to children unloved.
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