Таня with Maxim were fine pair on which all their friends were equaled. Таня – the clear head and the beauty, has defended the dissertation last year. Maxim – the master on all hands, hardworking and economic. Tannins of the girl-friend always held up Maxim as an example to the men. A pier, it you are able nothing, and Maxim itself both kitchen has collected, and a washing machine has connected, and to Poland behind a lawn-mower for a summer residence has gone. But once in the evening when girl-friends have gathered, this ideal has into smithereens broken. Таню that evening as though has broken through …  - Girls, - she has started to sigh, - as with it it is heavy! It after all not simply hard-fisted, it the present cheapskate. Maxim for last three years not only has never bought to me of colours, it "saws" me for the earned rouble everyone by me. It goes to "distant" shop only because there on 2 roubles more cheaply sour cream. And in the market … If you knew, that is created in the market! At first it will bypass all tents and learns all prices. Then he chooses tent where the goods most cheaply and begin to bargain. Personally it becomes simply a shame to me. The seller sees, that before it decently dressed, it is possible even to tell, the well-cared man, and behaves, as the beggar …
What is the problem?
And a problem that the adult, absolutely generated person at all does not assume, that it the cheapskate that it conducts itself(himself), to put it mildly, uncivilizedly and потребительски.
- I do not consider myself as the miser, - speaks Дима. – I simply rational person. - also starts to tell, its former girl Ira was what stinker:
- Represent, - he complained. – for 150 dollars of surcharge Ирка took to itself подработку. Came home malicious, got tired and ran into me because of not washed up ware. And I to it have told:
- Ира, what for to you the second work if you "any" home come back? Is better you would work on one, but came kind and fluffy and ware itself washed. I after all well earn.
- Дима, I of your money in eyes did not see, - "have snapped" Ира. – I at all do not know, how many you earn. And money is necessary to me, that for study to pay and mothers to help. And even in the summer I wish to go on a resort.
As this statement has enraged Диму! It simply left itself(himself):
- And what to you business to my money? You live and what you do not require? What, you is there is nothing? Or barefoot along the street you go?.
In some months Ира with Димой have left. Since then Дима only also does, that tells to the friends about bitchiness and greed of the former girlfriend. And in the eye of a log does not notice …
The test on скупердяйство
Gifts. Meeting the cheapskate, on gifts especially do not count. Those rare cases when he will decide something to present to you, necessarily will appear your Birthday or New year. But value of these gifts will be entirely emotional, instead of real, is direct as in KVN game:
- I long thought what to present: money – it is banal, the cartridge with good videorecordings – it is expensive … Therefore has decided to present a card.
Besides a card you can count on a modest bouquet, a box of sweets either absolutely useless figurine or a vase.
Flowers. If your lover the cheapskate, you can be assured, that he considers flowers as "the money thrown out on a wind». A maximum, on what you can hope, are three carnations for March, 8th or wild flowers («Went by the car, has collected at road …»)
Appointments. Appointments to the cheapskate pass monotonously. All of them are reduced to walks on a city because it is improbably cheap. You sadly look at neon show-windows floating by coffee houses and inhale aroma of newly-baked rolls on which, alas, the cheapskate "will never be ruined".
Transport. A taxi – "taboo" for the cheapskate. If you, worrying about own safety, decide to call a taxi to reach from the house бойфренда to own you will see a disapproving sight and the offer to remain «with it». And anybody does not have affairs, that you have nothing to change clothes, that you do not have tooth-brush, the hair dryer and cosmetics. Certainly, you can leave by a taxi, but will pay for it. Not the fact even, that the trip on public transport will be paid by your friend, especially if it маршрутка. Frequently the girl of the cheapskate should pay most.
Cultural wealth above only. The cheapskate constantly underlines, that appreciates kindness and disinterestedness in girls. Thus he tells, how is merciless it «доила» the former girl, and resolutely declares, that more the similar will not admit. You understand, that these words concern you and that attention signs not to wait.
Holiday. That the man-cheapskate will pay your joint trip on the sea, do not hope at all. It can unexpectedly leave for you one, having told, that «accidentally to it two weeks of holiday» have suggested to take and it has instantly departed under «the burning permit». And if all the same you go together the question on "individual share" in expenses will rise in any case. Here two variants of succession of events are possible. The man will declare to you it directly or in the middle of holiday at it money "suddenly" will end, and it is necessary to pay for all to you in one.
Heavy times. Even if you not the lover to complain of financial difficulties, in a life of each woman there are moments when money is not present. The cheapskate will turn a deaf ear to your complaints to a heavy financial position. But even if will notice, it will be limited to simple sympathy. The "widest" gesture of which the cheapskate is capable, it to suggest to lend to you of money – or occupied from relatives. Both variants will assume, that you should return a debt. If (God forbid!), you will not return this money (and even if it will have enough tactfulness not to obtain on demand them from you), he more never will offer the help.
How to struggle with скупердяйством бойфренда?
Would be naive to assume, that the cheapskate will be corrected. But to try to modify its behaviour it is possible. The main thing – to operate gradually and patiently.
1. 50 on 50. If you notice, that alone buy all products, pay for apartment and buy DVD-disks for your evenings, it is necessary to stop and reflect. It is necessary to halve expenses at least. For this purpose it is possible to write down all expenses, and the list of expenses to put on a visible place – that it was visible to all". Eventually, it is possible even openly to suggest to pay for all half.
2. Pity. It is possible to press on pity, saying, that you absolutely do not have money. Thus it is absolutely unessential to say lies. From time to time financial difficulties are at everyone. But it is not necessary with "pride" and "self-respect" about them to be silent and ask money from parents-pensioners, forcing them to be upset because of your vital disorder. Tell about the problems to the man – probably, he will want to help.
3. Cunning. It is possible to go on the cunning adjoining on a spontaneity. For example, indifferently to tell to the man, what gift was handed over one of these days Ирочке by its Vadik that has presented Катьке it Сашик …
4. Indignation. Eventually, you can even be indignant and state the discontent with that «after all» you are not awarded even with boxes of favourite sweets or several гербер.
5. The organisation. If you do not hope for generosity of the gentleman, take care of the gift itself. When the favourite will ask that you wish to receive as a gift, it is not necessary to be over-modest and speak «choose itself». Name that gift which actually you want. If the gentleman does not find time to ask about it, hint. As a last resort you can entrust "notification" mission about a desired gift to the girlfriend or your general friend.
6. Jealousy. It is possible to try to cause in the man jealousy, having told that manager Anatoly almost brings every day to you sweets, and supply manager Anatoly Nikolaevich only to you to one gives the right to choose to itself in department the most beautiful folders, daily logs and an other stationery.
Certainly, on correction of the cheapskate of hope it is not enough. Therefore for yourself you should solve at once: either to reconcile, or to disperse. However, when you will disperse, there can be a situation, as in that joke:
The girl: You such cheapskate! I never will marry you. Take away the ring!
The young man: And where a box?.
Marina Tumovskaja,
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