Every day we somehow communicate with children. As a rule, each parent has a certain set of phrases, templates or habitual and set phrases with which help it, the parent, tries to bring up the child. These our habitual daily phrases contain the special information, the latent messages invisible at first sight. | On a basis of such latent parental messages and statements the child sizes up itself, about people, about the world surrounding it. We have specially made the given selection of various sources, having borrowed materials at various authors, that each parent (or the child) could see visually in what some forms of education and dialogue can result.
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 PHRASE - More silently, more slowly, more cautiously.
The LATENT MESSAGE - do not trust the world, do not live on a maximum.
POSSIBLE ALTERNATIVE - Make on 100 %, take pleasure.
PHRASE - I will beat you, be gone you пропадом, is better I would make abortion.
The LATENT MESSAGE - Disappear! Not be!
POSSIBLE ALTERNATIVE - All similar should be categorically excluded from speech!!!
PHRASE - do not pay attention, you will think!
The LATENT MESSAGE - You and your problems are not important.
POSSIBLE ALTERNATIVE - Give we will try to consider it from the different parties, we will look for alternatives.
PHRASE - Give move! More soon! Shut up! And other orders.
The LATENT MESSAGE - You are not important. My interests it is more important than yours.
The POSSIBLE ALTERNATIVE - At us is 15 minutes. Give we will agree, how to us to make to be in time?
PHRASE - You for me always will remain a small sonny/daughter.
CКРЫТОЕ the MESSAGE - is not more adult!
The POSSIBLE ALTERNATIVE - Me is pleasant to see, how you grow and learn the world.
PHRASE - do not roar, do not laugh so loudly, do not complain!
The LATENT MESSAGE - do not express the emotions!
POSSIBLE ALTERNATIVE - I understand your feelings.
PHRASE - That you as small, it is necessary to be more serious!
The LATENT MESSAGE - not be the child!
POSSIBLE ALTERNATIVE - But it actually the child! Exclude such statements!
PHRASE - How many it is possible for you to repeat! Never you can make, remember etc.
The LATENT MESSAGE - You silly, cannot make anything itself. You bad, the loser.
POSSIBLE ALTERNATIVE - I trust you. Your acts are your responsibility. All of us we are mistaken. Thanks to errors we study.
PHRASE - do not do, I will make it is better.
The LATENT MESSAGE - I do not trust in you!
POSSIBLE ALTERNATIVE - I trust you, I believe, that you can.
PHRASE - Boys do not cry. Girls should behave silently. The man has no right to emotions.
The LATENT MESSAGE - the Man has no right to emotions. Women - a victim.
POSSIBLE ALTERNATIVE - You can freely express the feelings. I understand you.
PHRASE - you Will fall, you will break, will bite, you will break also other threats-preventions.
The LATENT MESSAGE - the World is dangerous, do not operate.
POSSIBLE ALTERNATIVE - I trust you. Try, operate!
PHRASE - the Sloven, the stupid person, a grief my and all others обзывания, and also any generalisations, type all around thieves and villains.
The LATENT MESSAGE - And you same, as all.
POSSIBLE ALTERNATIVE - All of them can generate false representation about themselves and should be excluded from speech.
The PHRASE - You always, never, all life, I and knew.
The LATENT MESSAGE - You are hopeless. Impossibility of change.
POSSIBLE ALTERNATIVE - Assort not the person, and a concrete act. Your life in your hands.
PHRASE - Comparison with other children.
The LATENT MESSAGE - You bad, would be better instead of you another.
POSSIBLE ALTERNATIVE - I love you what you are.
Certainly, the child himself chooses the basic installations on which it will build the character and a life, but in our forces to help it to build more harmonious relations with itself and world around
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